May 17 2008
Funny Pics and Myspace Layouts at pYzam.com
Question for you this week based on the above picture:
Do you believe this is how women and men view themselves in general?
For last week’s question, feel free to click here.
May 15 2008
I came across an interesting article recently that states that generally, people are very poor at predicting what makes them happy. And the thought that children will make people happy is one of those illusions.
In fact, in the article, a psychology professor mentioned that peoples’ happiness actually take a downward turn after they have children and their happiness will only return to the original level when their kids leave home. This is because having children entails long periods of irritation and boredom while moments of joy can be fleeting.
So, does happiness means not having children? How can that be when all parents will openly tell others of the joys their kids bring and that all the sacrifices are worth it? Perhaps the joys may be few but are heartfelt and meaningful while the irritation and boredom have been accepted as part of the being a parent. So, we pushed those negative emotions aside or learn to live with them and assumed we are happy with kids running around us everyday. I may not be right but it does make sense in a way, right?
Anyway, humans have been conditioned to reproduce that not many couples are willing to look at the other alternative of not having any kids at all. Furthermore, when people look at others cuddling or playing with their kids, they too would yearn to have their own. I guess it is only natural for us to long for something we do not have and assume that would give us happiness. Few would stop to think if having children would actually gives us more or less of that happy feeling.
Interesting propositon by the professor, isn’t it? So, do you believe having kids makes you happier?
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May 13 2008
Recently, I read of a couple who have 17 children with baby number 18 on the way. When most people would stop at 2 or 3, it is indeed amazing that a couple would still want to have so many kids nowadays.
Of course, some do prefer to have a large family but 18 kids? With only 1 kid, I already have my complaints so, I can’t imagine having more than 2 kids at most. I guess people do have their own beliefs and opinions when it comes to the ideal number of kids but I also feel there should be a reasonable limit, even if money is not an issue.
Reasonable being the amount of time and attention that you could realistically provide for each of your child as a parent. I really don’t know how 2 parents can cope with 18 kids no matter the system that they have in place. Yes, the older kids can look after the younger ones but is it fair to them to have to take on part of the responsibility of being a parent? I really don’t know.
Anyway, large families can be fun, especially if it is a close-knit family. But I also tend to think that in reality, not many large families have all the siblings being close to each other. For instance, I used to have a colleague who has 9 other brothers and sisters. His mother gave birth to the youngest one when he was already in his late teens. He told me he is in fact uncomfortable that he still has siblings so young when he himself is already out earning a living. Perhaps an age gap which is too wide and a different life experience makes it difficult for a close bond to be established between the oldest and the youngest few.
Now, just for fun, let me ask you this. If finances are not a problem, would you have, don’t even say 18, maybe say a dozen kids?
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May 13 2008
Nowadays, with so many online book stores, buying books is so much more convenient. A few years ago, I still go to bookstores to thumb through books but now, I rather surf the internet to look for books that interest me.
There are a few reasons why and the main one among them is the ease of search. Type in a search term and up comes a list of books for my perusal. Apart from that, there are also bargain books available at some online stores and there have been occasions that I bought books at a fraction of the retail price.
For an avid reader like me, online book stores offer a much welcomed convenience. Furthermore, if I’m undecided whether I should buy a particular book, I can browse through the reviews written by others who have read it, which is another way of knowing if the book is worth a buy.
So, if you are looking for a book next time, try browsing for books online. Who knows, you might just end up with a good bargain.
May 11 2008
Well, we all need some humor in our lives, especially mothers like us who may have to constantly put up with all the mischiefs from our kids apart from the daily chores. So, lets have a look and perhaps smile over a funny quote or two on mothers.
Let me end this post with this paragraph by Robert Fulghum. I don’t know about you but my mom certainly had no qualms doing the things described below when I was young.
“One of the very few reasons I had any respect for my mother when I was thirteen was because she would reach into the sink with her bare hands - bare hands - and pick up that lethal gunk and drop it into the garbage. To top that, I saw her reach into the wet garbage bag and fish around in there looking for a lost teaspoon. Bare hands - a kind of mad courage.”
Happy Mother’s Day!
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May 09 2008
When kids reach teenage years, it is a different kind of worry for the parents. More so when they have gotten themselves a driving license and demand for nights out with friends. I’m sure we all have read of stories of teenagers involved in serious accidents because of the lack of driving experience and immaturity. Yet, if they have reached the legal age limit to drive, teenagers should also have the right to be able to get themselves from point A to B, right?
So, for this week:
Is driving a right or a privilege for a teenager?
For last week’s Weekend Q, please click here.
May 08 2008
Do any of you actually take the time to analyze your blog traffic? This blog has been running for over 4 months now and I’m getting perplexed at the statistics that are being churned out. Not that this blog has lots of visitors but I’m just wondering where all my visitors are coming from.
From instance, for April 2008, this blog recorded 2,711 visitors but new visitors came to 2,297. Huh? Is this number accurate? I always thought this blog of mine would have more or less an equal number of new and return visitors since about half of my visitors do come by through search engines. But 85%?
Anyway, I also expect my traffic to drop with the PR penalty which is expected with all the paid posts. But I actually see an upward trend this month instead. Strange! Just when I thought I should slow down here since it is now a PR0 blog, the traffic level convinces me otherwise. Lets see how it goes because I too need to spend time on my love poems blog at the moment.
Frankly, I think the poems blog has more potential than this one because with only slightly more than 20 posts there, I can garner over 100 visits a day mid-week. I have started the Love Q to spice up the blog and I think we are having fun there. Thank you to Tammy, Jo-N, Amidrin, Abbey, Nurin, Martini, JM and Mae for having participated. All are welcomed to join because the more, the merrier. 
As for this blog, I will update you again if I see an unexpected traffic level in the next few months. That is if I have the perseverance to maintain it given my fickle-minded character!
