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My post on How to Get a Married Man to Leave his Wife has been attracting quite a few intresting comments since it was written and I thank those who have made it a point to share. If you go through the comments, you will realize that it is easy for an outsider to say those women who have affairs with married men are silly and stupid or that they should know better. But for those who are going through the heartaches, I believe they are also intelligent women who simply got trapped in an emotional roller coaster that they find it hard to get out of.

I don’t think all women who have an affair with a married one entered into one with an intention to simply wreck his marriage. A lot of times, when we are unhappy and lonely, people may appear in our lives and we get carried away with the emotions within us. An affair starts and then, we find it difficult to put a stop to it or draw ourselves out of the mess. The logical thing to do is plain to see but when you are in an affair, your heart rules rather than your head and as such, it is hard to extricate yourself out of the hole that you have dug. Moreover, love is a powerful emotion and when you are in love, being with your man is the top priority, regardless of the consequences.

To outsiders, the rational step forward is very clear and thus, they will tend not to understand why it is so hard for women to stop their affairs with a married man. But when you are looking at a problem that you are not experiencing yourself, it is always easy to be logical and point out the right choice. Because for you, your head rules rather than your heart.

I guess what I want to point out is it is always easy for us to judge when we are standing outside looking in. But when we are on the inside, things may not be so clear that allow us to easily make the right choice. It will take realization, determination, courage, optimism and self-believe for a woman to walk away from an affair with a married man and never look back.

It is not often that ordinary people need to be formally dressed up for functions and such. But when formal wear is required, this is when panic tends to start as you do not know what to wear and where to get them.

The other day, my husband has to wear a tuxedo to a really formal business function. There is actually one in his wardrobe and luckily, he tried it on several days before the function because it no longer fits when he put it on. So, the mad scramble to go and get another one and to ensure that it would be ready to be picked up the night before.

I guess the lesson is it is always good to take out those suits that you seldom wear and try them on now and then to make sure that they still fit. Otherwise, when you do need to wear them, you might just find they can no longer accommodate your size!

I think a doodle pad is one item that most parents would buy for their young kids. You know the one that allows you to erase whatever has been written with one swipe? This toy is sort of an introduction to drawing and writing and I believe it is one of those stuff that you will find in a kid’s toy box.

But when it comes to really learning how to write, how old should a kid be before it is advisable to start giving him alphabets and numbers to write? My son is not even four yet, but he is already learning how to write 1 to 10 and some alphabets in kindy. He is still having trouble with some of the numbers and alphabets as they require him to really control his hand movements such as ”R” and “5″.

So, I tend to think that 3 to 4 is a little too young to start getting them to write. Or am I mistaken? I know some kids can write really well by the time they are 4 while others still find it hard to master. I think my son is somewhere in between. Right now, I try not to force him too much and I help him out with his writing homework. Imagine having homework to do at 4 years of age, which, is well, another issue altogether.

Therefore, if you have kids of a similar age, what do they learn in kindy? Do they do writing at all or is it just play? Sometimes, I also wonder how many kids actually enjoy doing writing. At least mine does his writing homework without much prodding now although I know some parents find it a total headache. But still, getting your kids to learn to write at around 4 is a little too young, isn’t it?

When we talk about mesothelioma, I’m reminded of a granduncle who died of the disease. It was a long time ago when medical research into this ailment was still not as advanced as today and the support for family of patients was also not as strong.

When the diagnosis was revealed, it was a terrible ordeal for both my granduncle as well as his wife who have to go through the painful experience of seeing her beloved husband fighting a losing battle. So, when it comes cancer, relatives and friends’ support are very important, not only for the patient himself but also immediate family members that are affected by the sad news.

For my grandaunt, relatives rallied to her side to give her emotional support as well as helping her to take care of my granduncle in his final few months. I think it gave her the strength to face each day as there was always someone to talk to during that difficult period in her life. I guess for cancer patients and their families, a little compassion from everyone around them will go a long way in helping them face whatever challenges that lie ahead.

Today being Mother’s Day, it is just apt to post something regarding motherhood. Some people believe that motherhood changed them greatly by making them to be more responsible, committed and what not. I don’t think motherhood has changed me that much although to some extent, it has made me to be more patient and understanding. Well, you can’t really be a happy mother if you are forever screaming your head off, right?

It is to the benefit of my son that I’m more patient as much as it is to my benefit to know how to control my temper and moods. So, motherhood is that sense, has made me a better person. And the happiness that you gain from being a mother cannot really be substituted because it is certainly unique due to the deep bond of attachment.

I know of people who decided not to have kids and not surprisingly, there are others who would think being a mother is so fulfilling that it is crazy not to want to have children. But I do take a different view. Being a mother myself, I know motherhood can be satisfying and fulfilling. Although this may be so, motherhood is also about pain and sacrifices. The sleepless nights and worries are all hallmarks of motherhood. You worry when your kid is sick and you worry when she is unhappy at school. You worry when she doesn’t get good grades and you worry when she comes home late. You can’t really run away from all the sacrifices and worries, because, well, you are a mother.

So, there are always two sides to a coin. Happiness and love, yes, you get them as a mother. But so will you end up with worries and sacrifices from sleep to career to even love (think of women who stay in a loveless marriage because of the kids). And what if your kids turn out to be ungrateful brats after all your sacrifices? Still think motherhood is great? Hmmm… maybe not.

I guess what I’m trying to say is being a mother comes with heavy responsibilities with both the good and bad thrown in. Motherhood means you take the good with the bad and try to make the most out of it. Almost all mothers would say all the pain and sacrifices are worth it but we don’t really know the answer until the day comes when we are old and see what our kids have become, right?

Anyway, enough of my rants about motherhood. Happy Mother’s Day to all!

Do you know which weight loss supplement is the most effective diet pill out there? With so many pills available over the counter and online, which should you buy if you are thinking of losing some weight?

Actually, while there are a few recommended pills that are hugely popular in the market, I think there is no one pill that suits everybody. After all, you would always see one pill works wonderfully for one person but can be full of negative side effects for another. Each individual is different and therefore, what works for you may not necessarily work for me.

Anyway, diet pills can be effective in helping you to lose weight but you would need to choose the right one that works for you.

You would think no way am I going to wear a skirt that shows off my bum. Why would I want to make my backside so transparent for everyone to see. I saw this picture here and I was wondering myself why on earth women want to wear a see-through skirt like this.

But what if I tell you that these skirts are actually not see-through skirts but are actually printed with an image of a woman’s backside. Now, would you wear it? Still no? Why not?