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Just yesterday, I decided to start a forum, which is an extension of this blog, to cater to those labeled as “the other woman”. So, naturally, I simply named it Being The Other Woman Forum.

It was never in the plan when I set up this blog to start any forum whatsoever. But my post How To Get A Married Man To Leave His Wife occasionally invites a long comment when people use the section to share their stories. These are real people with real stories to tell and usually, the message that I gather from these stories is it’s tough being the other woman.

So, I thought why not just set up a forum for this purpose so that people who are involved with a married man can go there to share and vent. Even if you are just an outsider looking in, you can still offer your views from a rationale perspective if you care enough.

Personally, I know being the other woman is not easy. My uncle (my mom’s younger brother) has a wife but has been carrying a relationship with another woman for the last 30 years. He even have 2 girls with this other woman. To date, I have not met this other woman simply because she has no status whatsoever in the eyes of the family. My uncle has never brought her out to meet us and she remains “hidden”.

Maybe there is a kind of shame and guilt about being involved with a married man that staying hidden is a better alternative. Maybe when you are the other woman, you have no power or standing to push for recognition. I don’t know why a financially independent woman would want to stay attached to a married man for 3 decades. But I’m sure that 3 decades must be filled with lots of bitter tears with the occasional blissful moments cropping up to make it worthwhile.

Anyway, if you are interested, you can head off to the forum and share your experiences and views.

The other day, I got a baby shower invitation from a friend of mine and now, I will have to start shopping for a gift. It’s already a pretty last minute thing and I guess I had better start looking for a gift this one or two days.

Anyway, the invitation card is really sweet and cute. It’s personalized and comes in shades of lovely pink with a picture of a pram. I understand that now it is very convenient to have cards personalized when you shop online from any of the reputable card retailers.

Maybe next time, when I have an event coming up that requires invitation cards, I should try getting one of these personalized ones. At least, it will make things more special and unique.

OK, this news appeared sometime back here but I just stumbled onto it and to me it’s kind of creepy. It’s about lonely Japanese men who have turned to real life-like dolls for intercourse and companionship.

Picture from Reuters

I guess not everyone likes the dating game and for those who can’t get a mate, they do need an outlet for their loneliness. So, it seems there is a market for these kind of dolls and trust the Japanese to be innovative in all sorts of areas, including this specific niche.

I really don’t know what to think because you can’t really say this kind of behavior is wrong. After all, these lonely people are not hurting anyone and they just have their own unique way of resolving their emotional and sexual need.

But to say it is right and acceptable also gives a funny weird feeling because how can a doll replace a real human, right? It can’t talk and respond to you the way a human does. Maybe you can get the feeling that something or someone is beside you and that is better than having nothing at all.

For those who really can’t get a mate, perhaps it’s a solution. At least, a doll can’t nag and bitch and you won’t get hurt and betrayed, which to some men may be much better than putting up with a real wife!

I have always wanted one of those automatic coffee machines and if you are a coffee lover, it is one gadget that you really wouldn’t mind getting your hands on. But then, I came to find out that not all coffee machines are made equal.

Some do not last while others can be prohibitively expensive. For home use, one of the more popular brands is Capresso which is quite affordable and of good quality. I have used one before at my brother’s home and it seems to be a good coffee machine for a family.

Anyway, I will have to shop around further if I really want to buy one. My husband is not a coffee drinker and that is why I have continuously put off getting a machine. Maybe it is time I reconsider my decision for my own benefit!

I think this is rather self-explanatory. What can you expect out of life, right? But sometimes, people can see reality and then easily spin it to add their own perspective on things. And a more interesting outlook results… 

Can you find a reason to disagree with wordings on the old truck?

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How often do you get rid of your kid’s toys? I mean those that he has outgrown and no longer wants to play.

Right now, I have so many toys at home and I know I have to find the time to sort them out one of these days. The problem though is finding people to give them to. To simply discard them is kind of wasteful but because my son is the youngest among all his cousins, we do not have anyone to pass them on to.

The other solution is to donate them to charities and orphanages but we do not have any near our home. Moreover, even charities these days are pretty strict about what they will and will not accept.

I think I really have to tell my son that he can’t buy any more toys. But being a parent, sometimes, it’s hard to reject his request, especially when you know he deserves one. Add in those toys given by relatives and friends, they all quickly fill up all the toys boxes you can fit in your home.

Maybe it’s no so bad having a few kids after all. One toy can be passed down from one sibling to another and by the time the youngest has outgrown it, the toy is probably fit for the dustbin anyway! So, no waste there at all.