Feb 13 2008
Why People Divorce
According to statistics, roughly 40 to 50% of marriages in the US end in divorce. Why do people get divorce so easily now compared to the past when most will stay in a marriage until death do they part? Perhaps people nowadays are more proactive in seeking a way out of an unhappy union with divorce no longer having a stigma that it once had.
Personally, I know of a couple who dated and lived together for the whole 3 years while at university. All of us thought then that they would end up living happily ever after as husband and wife. We were partly right as they did get married not long after completing their studies. But the wife walked out less than 6 months later because she couldn’t get along with her mom-in-law who was living with them. Obviously, both knew what the problem was but because both were not willing to compromise and work out a solution, they ended up divorcing.
I guess with women nowadays being more financially independent, they have the courage to make such a decision while the men may also feel less guilty about a failed marriage. Add the stress of modern living, communication and commitment in making a marriage work also seem to have gone out the window, resulting in more unhappiness staying together than apart. And once unhappiness sets in, divorce then seems like a good option.
With such high divorce rate, getting married these days seems like high risk indeed for all the time and emotion invested. After all, you wouldn’t put all your money in a venture that has a 50% chance of loss, would you?
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hmmm…let me think. Why people choose divorce? Maybe their problem can not be solve with talk or comunication?? I don’t know, there are more reason to divorce
In order for a marriage to last, there really must be give and take and tolerance on both parties. Without these, it’s quite hard for the marriage to survive.
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I divorced, but it was because my ex was an abusive alcholic….
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Well, I agree with Shireen. Compromise is rather important. 2 different people with two different family backgrounds and personalities coming together to form a family of their own. It’s really not easy.
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” After all, you wouldn’t put all your money in a venture that has a 50% chance of loss, would you?” - BOY, that’s a good point, isn’t it!? I think it should be as difficult to get married as it is to get divorsed - maybe that would make people think a little harder about making the marriage decision. Take care and have a good day. Kellan
Well, I tend to think that divorce has less to do with not compromising and more to do with the fact that marriage is very, very hard. I think if we were more open about this fact, people might enter with more caution.
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Divorce has never been an option for me. I desperately wanted to get married and had opportunities, but I would have stayed single than marry someone I wasn’t COMPLETELY sure about, who I knew very well, and who felt the same way about commitment. My husband and I have had to make compromises along the way…it’s part of it.
It is really hard to maintain good relationship if both not willing to compromise….of course, if there is no more love rather than hate, guess divorce will be good idea rather than suffer in long term
I think we are looking at the question backwards, the real problem is that people get married to easly. I mean people have to realize that it is a commitment for life, and our culture has become a throw away one.