Mar 18 2008
Snooping
Have you ever been guilty of snooping? That weak instance when you just felt like snooping around your partner’s belongings to see what he/she had been up to? Or have you ever been on the receiving end of a snooping girlfriend, boyfriend or spouse?
Personally, I have never done it. I have known my husband for more than 15 years and I cannot recall a moment that I have resorted to snooping. But I know of someone who does. Each time her husband comes back from a business trip, she will quietly go through his credit card bills for that month. For me, it’s pretty silly because if he has an intention to cheat and ended up in some suspicious club, he wouldn’t be that stupid to pay by credit card and leave a trail.
Perhaps snooping is a way for people to deal with their insecurities in a relationship and if nothing incriminating is found, it helps to alleviate those fears. Another possible reason for people snooping through their partner’s phone, e-mails, facebook account and others is because it offers an easy way to check if the person is who he/she claims to be, especially if the relationship is still fairly new. Needless to say, many people also snoop because they suspect their partner may be cheating.
But whatever the reasons for snooping are, is it right? Can we justify that snooping is ok because say, our partner may be cheating? I think it will be hard not to snoop if we really believe we are being cheated on but at the end of the day, snooping is basically a symptom of a trust problem. And like all trust issues, it needs open communication between the partners to resolve the problem. Otherwise, if one goes on snooping and is found out, it would only give rise to more distrust.
Of course, if we snoop and found hard evidence that our partner is cheating, we may say our action is right and the snooping is justified. But what happens if our partner is innocent? Is the snooping still justifiable then? Since I believe no one likes to be at the receiving end of a snooping act, it follows that we shouldn’t be doing the same to our partner.
So, let me ask you this question. If you suspect your partner is up to no good but just isn’t sure, will you snoop? Yes, no?
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Oh yes. If I was suspecting, I would totally snoop!
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I would probably snoop if I really have to depending on the severity of my suspicious. But I would not want to do the things which I do not want others doing it to me. So I try to refrain myself from snooping.
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If the man cheats on u, I don’t think he’s dumb enuff to leave a trail. So wat’s the point of snooping leh? Go get a PI. That shld be more effective.
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ya, i’ll snoop…of course, this is to secure myself..haha…
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Most probably no. We either find nothing or find something which will cause misunderstanding.
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Nope, never snooped because I never have to. Peter and I are completely honest and transparent with each other….we even have each other’s user name and passwords.
But you can be sure I would start if he started acting suspcicious all of the sudden!
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should one day he starts acting strangely to arouse my suspicious, i guess i would not have the patient to snoop, but would confront him straight away.
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I don’t think I have ever snooped, but I am a very nosy person. LOL
I’d like to take the high road but I cannot deny it - I would snoop like no one has ever snooped before.
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I wouldn’t snoop. In the first place I wouldn’t care if he was up to no good, more sleep for me. But also in my experience snooping can lead you to assume he’s snooping when he really isn’t, causing problems where there wouldn’t be any otherwise. This happened to a friend of mine, and their marriage never recovered because the wife didn’t feel she could be married to someone who didn’t trust her.
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Ya i will snoop.Only once in a blue moon if i suspect he is not being honest to me.
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I’m not much of a snooper - too trusting, I guess? Either that or he doesn’t give me reason to doubt.
But TRUST - if that seed got planted anywhere near, I would definitely start taking a look around.
And doing the same as slavemom.
if after you know a fella for so long and he started to change or act suspiciously, i’d snoop! anyway better know early than to find out from others.
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