Mar 24 2008
How to Woo a Woman
It is an open secret that women like to be wooed and even if a woman may not show an interest in the man, using the right wooing strategy may just be able to melt her heart.
Here are a few tips on wooing a woman and some stories behind them:
- Buy her a gift. Although buying the woman a gift is a common way of showing a man’s interest, ending up with wrong gift can also be disastrous. My husband’s mate is currently interested in his colleague and recently, he asked my husband to help in choosing a piece of jewellery for her. I told my husband if they are merely colleagues at the moment, I’m just not too sure if a Tiffany necklace is the right thing to buy. Personally, I would be reluctant to receive such an expensive item from someone who is still only a colleague. Most women would love a gift definitely but something simple and sweet would be sufficient as too expensive a gift may just put us off.
- Anticipate her needs. When my husband and I were still friends, he used to brave the cold weather and cycle out to the take away shop in the middle of the night to buy me those midnight snacks without me asking. This was during the exam periods back in university when we would all be up in our rooms burning the midnight oil. He knew I would be looking for food and he did his part to fulfill my hunger pangs. Suffice to say it works. I guess if a man pays enough attention on the woman’s needs and is able to meet those needs, half the battle is won.
- Do something special. I once had a colleague who was being wooed by a guy she was still considering. On her birthday, this man did not go out and buy her a cake but he actually baked her one. When she found out that he actually had to spend a few days learning how to bake the cake, she didn’t believe him. But when she went over to his place and saw all the baking equipment, her heart melted. I suppose if a man does something to make a woman feels special, she might just be his for the taking.
- Know when to back off. I know there are women out there who would cave in to a persistent man. But persistance is only good to a certain extent. I know of a friend who used to have this guy who was crazy over her. Every morning, he would call her office to check if she has arrived safely to work. Then, he would call her just after the lunch hour to see if she had eaten. Before the day is over, he would ring again to find out what time she will be leaving the office and to ask her to drive safely. I guess he was trying to show that he cared but he just overdid it. The lesson being a woman wants to be wooed but not suffocated!
Anyway, I once read that women are often attracted to men who have plenty of admirers because their opinions of the opposite sex are often based on how other females view them. So, if this study is correct, perhaps the most effective way to woo a woman then would be to show a little interest in her friends as well. After all, if her friends have nothing but nice things to say about the man, she would be taken in too by all the positive opinions. Sounds logical to you?
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Now, this is another very interesting topic of yours. I think it does sounds logical that men should also get to know her friends because girls often likes to share gosips and opinions with their own friends and if the man could potray himself positively to her friends, it will definately get him a step further in winning the woman’s heart. But beware, it might be the complete opposite if most of her friends doesn’t like him.
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wow, the cake baking story very touching..
i like to be wooed, but i don’t think my man is free for me
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Geee….I guess if all women said that man is nice, definitely I will go for it…he,he..but, if the man is keep showering me with gift and sweet word, I’ll be a bit worry…ha,ha…too romance meaning he might did it with others as well
It’s always good to hv allies with the girl’s frens. When the guy’s wooing her, they can give +ve feedbacks (ie, if he’s really a nice fella). They can be quite a good source of info too (to make the wooing process easier and smoother).
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That is the way it is in nature. The males always have to impress the females if they want to mate.
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Men has to be creative in wooing a woman, eh?
sure ma’am, those talks are only for a normal environ, with normal circumstances. honestly these things can’t work in our clime, Nigeria where the economic situ…ation is biting hard and MOST LADIES MUST SURVIVE USING WHAT THEY HAVE TO GET WHAT THEY WANT.
FRANK. NIGERIA
I think that what I have just read is a bunch of c**p! Why would you want to “Woo” a woman for? to get into her panties, at least that is the case in the U.S. But quite frankly woman love jerks better than they do the men that “woo” them. Why? because they see the man “wooing” as a gay friend. someone to talk to about their feelings and etc… But as hurtful as it seems it is that JERK that get to bang her at the end of the night. After she has been used and dropped off like a used car with high mileage they now expect you to be OK you men who was “wooing” them in the first place. “wooing” is another financial burden anyway just like your expenses such as gas, insurance, and rent. Please stop with this image of a fairy tale and start getting some tail! NOT against women id rather have one that would put out before the third date otherwise move on! “In behalf of the man, the legend, Tom Leykis”
Wow Tom Leykis, you are certainly the ladies man, aren’t you!
I’m a 30 year old single father wooing a 30 year old single mother. We’ve already got plenty of common ground, and it’s obvious that we’ve both been around the block. I’m enjoying the process, and for the first time that I recall, I’m taking my time.
In the past, I’ve been guilty of being over-agressive. Not to the point of suffocating, but certainly to the point of annoying. It’s a lesson that seems to have been learned with age for me. Having a relationship where I was smothered by the woman, I now understand that it’s uncomfortable and creates the desire to escape.
While I’m doing my best to prevent myself from appearing too interested, the excitement of this early stage is hard to ignore.
Pls,what do u do when u have nothing more to say in a chat with a lady?