Jul 18 2008
Secrets to a Long-Lasting Marriage
I came across this article recently whereby two bachelors interviewed couples who have been married for 40 years or more to uncover the secrets to a successful and long-lasting marriage for their book, Project Everlasting.
There are actually seven secrets in all but one of them is certainly an eye-opener for me. And that secret is a four-letter word which is GIVE. All along, I believe that marriage is about equal partnership. By right, it has to be a 50/50 thing, isn’t it?
But one of the interviewee actually said, “Most people think marriage is 50/50. It’s not. It’s 60/40. You give 60. You take 40. And that goes for both of you.” I guess that is sound advice for married couples. If both spouses practise this philosophy, a marriage certainly has a high chance of enduring.
Adding on, another interviewee said, “The younger generations seem to have a sort of me-me-me mentality. The great part is that the me gets everything it needs when it puts the we first.” Wow! Doesn’t that help you understand marriage a little better?
It is just sad that these days, divorce rates are so high that we need to look for “secrets” from long-married couples. And sometimes, there are just no secrets lurking there but merely our attitude, mentality and life philosophy on sharing a life together.
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I definitely think both parties have to think of the other person in order to have a successful long lasting marriage.
I agree that we hv to GIVE but most of us forgot abt that all the time
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That is just so true! I agree with the GIVE and the “we” part. A change of mentality and attitude should be given a go at mending problems in a marriage ya.
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Wow, I didn’t know it either..I tho it is 50/50…he,he…