Nov 11 2008
Number of Dating Partners Before Marriage
Have you given it a thought of what would be the ideal number of dating partners to have before you even think of marriage? Because this issue about marrying the only person you have ever dated was asked recently:
Do you think it’s healthy/unhealthy to marry the only person you have ever dated? Does it matter if a person marries their first love?
In her blog, JM raised this thought-provoking question. To me, I think it can’t really be unhealthy to marry your first love because if he is the one for you, it would be silly to give up on him just because he happens to be the first person you ever dated.
Perhaps what this question wants to point out is how do you know he is the one for you if you have never ever dated anyone else. Which brings us to the the first question I raised in my opening paragraph above. If our first love shouldn’t end in a marriage, is marrying our second love healthy? How many people should we date before it becomes healthy to marry?
So, I believe it is neither healthy nor unhealthy to marry our first love. Just as it is neither healthy nor unhealthy to marry our second, third or fourth love. Because there are simply no guarantees that a marriage will work and you will be happier even if you have dated scores of people before you settle down.
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Excellent points.
JM’s last blog post..When You Marry an Australian…
I married my first love. For me, it doesn’t matter how many you dated, it is whom you think would be suitable to be your life partner that matters and that’s the person you would marry, I guess.
True, first love or 2nd love, etc….doesn’t guarantee that I will have true happiness life….as long as my six sense tell me, he is the one, then, I will marry him, of course, consider other things as well