May 10 2009
Being a Mother
Today being Mother’s Day, it is just apt to post something regarding motherhood. Some people believe that motherhood changed them greatly by making them to be more responsible, committed and what not. I don’t think motherhood has changed me that much although to some extent, it has made me to be more patient and understanding. Well, you can’t really be a happy mother if you are forever screaming your head off, right?
It is to the benefit of my son that I’m more patient as much as it is to my benefit to know how to control my temper and moods. So, motherhood is that sense, has made me a better person. And the happiness that you gain from being a mother cannot really be substituted because it is certainly unique due to the deep bond of attachment.
I know of people who decided not to have kids and not surprisingly, there are others who would think being a mother is so fulfilling that it is crazy not to want to have children. But I do take a different view. Being a mother myself, I know motherhood can be satisfying and fulfilling. Although this may be so, motherhood is also about pain and sacrifices. The sleepless nights and worries are all hallmarks of motherhood. You worry when your kid is sick and you worry when she is unhappy at school. You worry when she doesn’t get good grades and you worry when she comes home late. You can’t really run away from all the sacrifices and worries, because, well, you are a mother.
So, there are always two sides to a coin. Happiness and love, yes, you get them as a mother. But so will you end up with worries and sacrifices from sleep to career to even love (think of women who stay in a loveless marriage because of the kids). And what if your kids turn out to be ungrateful brats after all your sacrifices? Still think motherhood is great? Hmmm… maybe not.
I guess what I’m trying to say is being a mother comes with heavy responsibilities with both the good and bad thrown in. Motherhood means you take the good with the bad and try to make the most out of it. Almost all mothers would say all the pain and sacrifices are worth it but we don’t really know the answer until the day comes when we are old and see what our kids have become, right?
Anyway, enough of my rants about motherhood. Happy Mother’s Day to all!
I share the same thoughts about motherhood… and I hope that the kid I am raising will grow up to be a wonderful person.
A happy mother’s day to you!
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Happy Mother’s Day to u too!
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if given a choice to be a woman again, i wouldnt have choose the other way too. being a mother is such a beautiful experience in life. happy mothers day to you!
hope you have a wonderful mother’s day!
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