Nov 22 2009
Being Too Pretty
My husband has a friend whose girlfriend is an air stewardess. She is very pretty and naturally attracts quite a bit of attention from the opposite sex. They have been dating for quite a while but he is still not prepared to settle down.
He says that he is a bit insecure given her pretty looks and the nature of her job which requires her to be away often. In her line, being pretty means attracting the attention of male colleagues and pilots as well as passengers. She has many options to choose from, if she so desires.
I guess sometimes people will have this notion that pretty means less faithful and hence, cannot be trusted. In this case, my husband’s friend thinks it would be better if she quits flying. Then, he will feel more secure knowing she is always by his side. He says that if she is always attracting men who are rich, interesting and capable through her job, where does that leave him?
It boils down to his insecurities but I think many people do seem to have this issue. If their partners are highly attractive and they are plain-looking, they do feel uncomfortable knowing that their partners can easily attract another with much better qualities than them.
It’s just natural that people will have insecurities. But the thing is if you feel inseucre being with such a person, then it is only right that you learn to overcome your problem or you let go of the relationship. Just like my husband’s friend, he is letting the relationship drag on without wanting to fully commit to it while the girlfriend is hoping he will make a move to settle down. I guess, ironically, being too pretty sometimes may not be a good thing.
